“The immediate relief, the immediate change… I felt a million times better after one session.”
“I didn’t know I didn’t have to be sad all day.”
“Now I’m in a healthy, loving relationship — and I didn’t have to chase it.”
You’ve healed enough to function—but not enough to feel free.
The late-night overthinking. The mixed signals that still hook you. The fear of opening up again—because what if it just repeats?
You’ve done the healing work, but you’re still waiting to feel like yourself again. You’re calm on the outside—but your nervous system still flinches at love.
Because here’s the truth… time doesn’t heal heartbreak—it just hides it.
You’re not broken, you’re just unfinished. Your brain and body are still wired for the chaos you survived. What you need isn’t more time.
It’s a system—a process to rewire your patterns, rebuild safety in your body,
and finally feel ready for love that’s calm, secure, and real.
You’ve done the healing. Now it’s time to reprogram the system.
What’s Inside Becoming HER
A Scientific Framework for Recovery and Growth After Heartbreak
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Live Weekly Group Calls + 1-on-1 Support from Cody
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The Inner OS™ Framework: 9 Weekly Training Modules
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The Action Cycle™ Habit System (Act → Assess → Adjust)
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IFS Parts Mapping & Daily Check-Ins — understand and heal the voices driving your reactions
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Nervous System Regulation Toolkit — calm anxiety and panic in real time
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Clarity Blueprint — define your relationship standards, boundaries, and red/green flags
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Private Community
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24/7 Support
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And SO MUCH More!
Ashley – Teacher, Mom & Becoming HER Graduate
Meet Ashley—a compassionate educator and mom who came to Becoming HER: The Inner OS™ after a painful divorce that left her anxious, sleepless, and unsure who she was anymore. She’d tried traditional talk therapy and self-help programs, but nothing gave her the tools to actually feel better.
After joining Becoming HER, she:
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Slept through the night for the first time in months
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Regulated her emotions using the 90-Second Rule and IFS tools
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Let go of shame, rebuilt her confidence, and learned to trust herself again
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Took a solo trip to Iceland, started smiling again, and stepped into what she calls “Ashley 2.0”
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Entered a healthy, aligned relationship—without losing herself in the process
“I didn’t know I didn’t have to be sad all day. The 90-second rule changed my life. I’m sleeping again, I’m calm, I’m confident, and I finally feel like me. You’ve changed my whole life—I’m Ashley 2.0 because of you.”
Your Brain Needs 63 Days to Reset.
Heartbreak isn’t just emotional. It’s neurological.
Every thought about your ex, every anxious spiral, every over-giving pattern is a well-worn neural pathway in your brain. And your nervous system has learned to brace for rejection, abandonment, or chaos — even if it’s not happening.
Neuroscience research shows it takes about 63 days (9 weeks) to:
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Rewire those pathways.
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Calm the nervous system’s overreactions.
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Build new, lasting habits in how you show up in love.
That’s why Becoming HER is 63 days long. It’s not arbitrary — it’s biology.
This isn’t about hoping time will heal you. It’s about actively rewiring your brain and body for a new chapter.
By the End of 63 Days, You’ll Be a Different Woman
The Three Phases That Take You From Heartbreak to Healthy Love
Phase 1: Debug & Reboot Your System
From Heartbreak → Stability
Before: Lingering attachment, rumination, no closure.
After: Self-created closure, confidence, and inner calm.
You’ll learn to decode your emotional operating system, calm your body, and understand what’s been running your patterns.
Our 9 Weeks Together Will Include
Weekly Live Group Coaching
100+ hours of tailored support, specifically catered to your individual needs, from Cody and his team.
Private Community
A confidential and empathetic environment to bond and find mutual balance with others.
The Action OS
This isn't the kind of program where you collect more information. You will be taking ACTION daily to create the version of you who attracts healthy love!
24/7 Support
Whether it's our live team 9 to 7 PM or our Becoming HER AI companion, you'll have the support you need 24/7!
Looking for More Proof?
Based on our client data, participants in our programs have consistently exhibited significant positive shifts in their behavior and well-being.
The Complete Transformation
This reset isn’t for everyone. It’s not a quick-fix, a “get him back” trick, or another self-help book you’ll highlight and never use.
It’s for women who are ready to act, implement, and become the next version of themselves.
✅ Green-Flag Qualifiers (This is for you if…)
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You’re willing to act weekly, not just consume more information.
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You’re open to neuroscience- and IFS-based exercises that actually rewire your brain and body.
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You’re ready to stop contact, stop checking your ex, and finally close the chapter.
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You can invest the time (2–4 hrs/wk) and energy to implement the process.
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You want a clear, step-by-step system instead of vague advice or “see what happens.”
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You’re ready to create your own closure, rebuild trust with yourself, and prepare for love on your terms.
❌ Red-Flag Disqualifiers (This is not for you if…)
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You’re in acute crisis (fresh breakup within 2–3 weeks) or have untreated acute trauma — you need stabilization first.
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You’re looking for “get him back” tactics or ways to manipulate someone into staying.
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You’re not willing to complete assignments, track actions, or follow through.
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You want quick dating hacks without doing deeper healing or clarity work.
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You’d rather just “hope time will heal” than commit to a structured reset.
Why I Built Becoming HER
This program isn’t theory — it’s the path I had to create for myself after heartbreak.
I know what it feels like to have your nervous system hijacked — panic attacks, sleepless nights, constantly on edge, losing yourself in someone else’s chaos.
I’ve lived the confusion of staying when I knew I should go, hoping love would get better if I just gave more.
And I know what it feels like when the rug gets pulled out from under you — when someone you thought you’d build a future with suddenly shuts down, cuts off, and leaves you wondering how you missed all the signs.
I’ve sat in the car after a breakup, numb, crying, wondering who I was now and how I’d wasted so much time.
Time didn’t heal it. Therapy helped, but it didn’t rewire it.
What finally did was using neuroscience and IFS to create my own closure, reset old patterns, regulate my nervous system, and rebuild myself piece by piece.
After walking that path myself, I started guiding my clients through it too.
For over five years, I’ve helped women step out of heartbreak, reset, and re-enter love with clarity and calm.
That’s why I built Becoming HER.
It’s the path I wish I had — and now it’s yours.
After 63 Days, You Will Have..
✅ Closed emotional loops and created true internal closure
✅ Broken the cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable or toxic partners
✅ Rewired your brain to crave calm love instead of chaos and chemistry
✅ Learned to regulate emotions in 90 seconds or less
✅ Released the baggage that kept you stuck in anxiety or people-pleasing
✅ Rebuilt trust in yourself and your intuition
✅ Rewired your nervous system to feel safe with calm, stable love
✅ Feel safe giving and receiving love
✅ Developed the confidence, clarity, and communication skills to build relationships that actually last
✅ Become the woman who no longer chases validation — she radiates it
You won’t just feel healed — you’ll feel whole.
You won’t just understand your patterns — you’ll have rewired them.
You won’t just heal from the past — you’ll become the kind of woman who never repeats it.
And you won’t just be “ready” to date — you’ll have become the version of you who attracts the love you deserve.
Jordan T.
I decided to invest in this program because I came across it while researching alternatives to talk therapy. I feel that talk therapy has repeatedly failed to address the root issues I face by spending time talking 'round and 'round them and offering empty affirmation while not digging into the "how" of healing.
Casey L.
I really valued getting to know my authentic self and separating from my other parts that were actually impacting my life in a negative way. I really felt like I stopped spinning in my head.
**Due to the sensitive and traumatic nature of our programs, the names and pictures of our clients have been altered.**
Morgan H.
I was able to reconnect with parts of myself I didn’t even know were disconnected.
Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds, Having Process Does
You don’t need to spend another year half-healed, half-ready, half-free.
You deserve to feel whole, confident, and clear.
Becoming HER is the bridge from heartbreak to secure, lasting love.
➡️ Join Becoming HER Today
It’s time to reset, rebuild, and finally step into the love you deserve.